Wanting to openly and regularly communicate with the person you are having intimate relations with does not make you clingy. Clingy is when you have no friends of your own, no hobbies, no life and in addition to that, have no desire to fill those absences with anything other than your lover. That is clingy. Wondering why your person didn’t speak to you for an entire day does not make you clingy…but not reaching out to the person you’re seeing on your own when you want to talk to them does make you insecure. Remember through all the power plays in relationships, honesty and vulnerability are the most powerful in the long run. Be true to yourself and your needs so you can get the relationship you want.